the ways of communicating

recently, from others reliable feedback i realize that i have changed positively over the last a year or two. one says i am objective in responding to issues and continuously try to patch up my drawbacks. other says i have the strong will to learn. one thing i thank the LORD, strengthening feedback received by acknowledging His power in me and continuous self checking of pride.

in communicating with people, i perceive there are three areas of receiving and delivering:
1. intention
i like to understand clearly people's intention in direct manner. in the same way, i will speak direct to my point in the shortest way possible to other, as long as situation permits.

2. feedback
i appreciate so much when people do it direct to me. no matter how bitter they are, i learn that there must be 1% of truth out of the 99% of erroneous in them that i need to identify. no smoke without fire. after reflecting it personally with the LORD and if i do not find any mistake from myself to be corrected, i will submit the case in the end and have peace within myself. nothing to lose in accepting and clarifying it as early as possible. to people, as i know and care them person to person, i shall pray to the LORD first to clarify my intention in giving them feedback, if i were to deliver it for their goodness sake or for my own selfish motivation. depending on the result, i will do or do not give feedback.

3. confession
i pray that LORD always strengthen me and keep me from falling into sins. when i do and the sins are related to people, i naturally will pray to the LORD for forgiveness and confessing them to people. yesterday, i just received again the statement that there are some matters best not to be revealed.

in my opinion, if the delaying of confession may impact the relationships whenever it is revealed, the best is still to reveal them at the earliest time after own self have confessed them to the LORD and have peace to myself. in this way, when the other reacts negatively we are enabled to be strong in continue make our way right with the LORD with minimal impact from other reaction. the LORD has forgiven our sins once and for all, those in the past, present and in the future.